January 10, 2016

Profiles That Magnetically Attract Your Soulmate

Profiles That Magnetically Attract Your Soulmate

Find Your Soulmate in Six Simple Steps Book Cover

Profiles That Magnetically Attract Your Soulmate 

For a can’t-miss profile, start by working from your friends’ write-ups. Be honest and lead with your most warm, friendly and inviting qualities.Are you funny?A people person?Do you have a quick mind?Are you creative?Loyal?Write about it. Then throw in some quirky, endearing or funny specifics. Make sure you use detail. Details engage the guy who is reading your profile. For example you can say that your best Christmas present this year was a really fat book of Sudoku puzzles, you love cooking with chocolate, or you have trained a talking parakeet.

List your interests that your Soulmate might enjoy or be likely to share.Be specific. If you are a Yankees fan, put it in your profile. If you do sprint triathlons, describe how you love the wind in your face while you are running. If you are a great cook, highlight it and mention that over-the-top lasagna you make. Make sure you include some active interests like hiking on the grassy trails near the river or taking a quick spin on your Vespa orquiet time interests like sharing a great pot of joe and talking over the Sunday NY Times.

When you write about your ideal match, make it short. Less is more–you don’t want a man feeling like he can’t measure up to a long list of superguy qualities. Emphasize the Soulmate relationship you long for. Something like the following works fine: What I value/am looking for:

Loyalty, truth, a sense of fair play. Warmth, shared secrets, a fabulous kiss. Being there for each other. A great guy who is ready for a passionate joy-filled partnership. You want to cast a wide net to capture men who are interested in a Soulmate relationship and then do the picking and choosing. When you do start sorting through your responses, then you can choose men whose profiles show they are in the right age range, successful and looking for a passionate lasting love and children, if you want them.

Close your email with an invitation to connect with you. It is intimidating to make a first approach to a woman, even online. At the end of your profile go ahead and encourage your Soulmate to contact you.

Ok, sharpen your pencil. Take notes and then model your unique profile on the following can’t-miss examples. Feel free to modify and tweak whole paragraphs so that they truly describe you and let your personality shine through. Remember, writing a good profile is all about showcasing your assets.

Man-Magnet Profile Example #1:

I’ve been told I have the kind of humor that catches you off-guard, when you least expect it, but makes you want to laugh out loud. Men have called me warm, smart and more beautiful than my photos. Friends say I have a big heart and describe me as loyal, perceptive and great fun to be with. (Did I mention modest?) Ardent music fan, tech-savvy, film lover. I also love baseball games (go Red Sox!), standup comics, kissing and spur-of-the-moment walks and road trips. Oh, and I make a mean roast chicken with baby carrots!

While I love exploring, I also appreciate quiet evenings at home with the person I love.

I know what really matters in life and it’s matters of the heart: family, friendships, spending time with the people I’m close to, and enjoying life together.

My match is a smart, warm, witty man with joie de vivre who wants to be a best friend and life partner, someone with whom great chemistry is shared! Is that you? Email me. I’m looking forward to seeing the twinkle in your eye.

Man-Magnet Profile Example #2:

My friends say I’m the kind of person who helps people feel instantly relaxed and at home. I am friendly, fun to be with, and a happy woman! I do have a mischievous nature and love to share a great laugh. Friends say I’m adventurous, authentic and genuine–lovely inside and out. I love the thrill of the bargain and I’ve never been to a beach I didn’t enjoy!

My desire is to keep learning, and share travel adventures large (including Asia and Africa) and small (the Amish country)! Being active, I love to snowboard, rollerblade and going for walks. I’ve even been zip-lining! But I’m also a good listener and love a great conversation over Thai or French food, savoring each bite. I listen to Gaga and Kesha, Nelly and more. In day to day living, I am passionate about leading a purposeful, happy and loving life–a great adventure filled with possibilities.


You are looking for an extraordinary woman who is crazy about you, who respects you, who is proud of you, who appreciates you (idiosyncrasies and all). You are looking for someone who will support you, love you unconditionally. I’m looking for those things too. I’m looking for someone who loves life as much as I do.

We will make each other happy, we’ll crack each other up, we won’t be bored, we will create things and discover things, and together, we will go places. Being with you will feel like home.

If this is you, go ahead and contact me. I am looking forward to it!

Ro, a 40-something speech therapist from Houston, used a version of profile #2 and got 150 responses. She narrowed her search to 10 guys and then to three. One of these three turned out to be a wise yet playful couples therapist who is now her thoughtful husband. Does that mean you are looking for a gem hidden in a pile of stones? No. It means you have to work this program to get what you want and need. Like everything else in life that is worthwhile.

This article is an excerpt from Dr. Diana Kirschner’s book: Find Your Soulmate Online in Six Simple Steps (The Love Mentor’s Guide) and has been published with the permission of the author.

About the author

PBS Love expert, psychologist and bestselling author, Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. has helped thousands of singles and couples to find the relationships of their dreams.  Along with her team of expert Love Mentor® and dating coaches, she uses a unique approach to empower women by phone/Skype all over the world to heal from heartbreak and find lasting love.  Dr. Diana is the author of the new books, Find Your Soulmate Online in Six Simple Steps and 30 Days to Love; the relationship advice book, Sealing the Deal: The Love Mentor’s Guide to Lasting Love and the bestselling dating book, Love in 90 Days, which is the basis for her one-woman PBS TV Show Finding Your Own True Love.

Dr. Diana successfully ran the 90 Day Love Challenge on the Fox Morning Show, with highest ratings; frequently appeared on The Today Show; and on: Oprah, Good Morning America, Nightline and Access Hollywood. She is widely quoted on dating, couples and family issues in The New York Times, USA Today, Time Magazine, The New York Post, The LA Times, Cosmopolitan, People magazines and many more.

To know more about Dr. Diana, visit her website www.lovein90days.com.


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